One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance.
This is the ugly, crippling kind.
The other is an out pouring of everything good in you---of kindness and consideration and respect; not only the social respect of manners, but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable.
The first kind can make you sick & small & weak.
But the second can release in you strength & courage & goodness & even wisdom you didn't know you had.
Glory in it, for one thing,
and be very glad and grateful for it.
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to love up to it.
And don't worry about losing. If it is right, it happens.
The important thing is not to hurry.
Nothing good gets away."
--John Steinbeck